Charlotte has had a tough couple years and has sunk into a depression. We live on opposite sides of the country, so I don’t see her in person often, but I can hear the change in our phone conversations. She even admits that she’s in a depression.
Recently, she told me she feels she no longer has a reason to live and has considered harming herself. Because I live so far away, I couldn’t get to her so I could be there for her, but I called a mutual friend (“Sandy”) who lives nearby and asked her to check on my friend. Charlotte didn’t mention anything to Sandy about the way she was feeling or her thoughts of suicide and pretended like everything was OK.
I know things are NOT OK, and I’m extremely worried that Charlotte may hurt herself in a moment of despair. She has a therapist she sees on occasion, and I have urged Charlotte to be honest with her about her feelings. Charlotte says she will, but I’m not sure if she actually does.
How do I help her? Should I go visit her to show her she has friends who love and support her? Is there anything more I can do than encourage her to stick with counseling?
Of course, nothing the married man said was true. He never followed through on his promises. I knew the affair was wrong, but I thought this was different and we’d live happily ever after.
I try not to dwell on how differently my life would have turned out if I hadn’t fallen starry-eyed in puppy love for that man. I only have myself to blame. Please warn your readers to not make the same mistake. Enjoy the life you have, especially when you are young. The grass is NOT greener on the other side. It may look better, but trust me, there’s a lot of hidden weeds.