DEAR ABBY: “Jumbled in Ohio” (Aug. 10) indicated that her lack of interest in her husband started about a year after the birth of her second child. You recommended counseling, which is needed, but you should also have recommended she talk to a medical doctor, especially one who specializes in hormone imbalance. I’ve been there! Luckily, with the help of both doctors (counseling and medical), I was able to regain my interest in sex and once again enjoy my husband’s attention.

Don’t pass up on a good partner. The grass is not greener on the other side. My husband and I will celebrate our 50th anniversary in 2020. I thank God every day for the help I received.

— GRATEFUL IN THE SOUTH DEAR GRATEFUL: Thank you for your comments, which were echoed by other readers who recommended “Jumbled” see her OB-GYN and look into whether the birth control pills could also be a factor for the change in her feelings. (Readers wondered if she had been on the pill, went off it to have her two children and then went back on it.) Read on:

DEAR ABBY: “Jumbled” should see her gynecologist. Her hormones may be out of whack. It happened to me. My doctor gave me a low-dose testosterone prescription, which made all the difference in the world.

— YVONNE IN CALIFORNIA DEAR ABBY: As someone who has been married almost 50 years, I can honestly say I have fallen in — and out of — love with my husband many times. Each individual is responsible for his/her own happiness. You can’t rely on someone else to make you happy. Together we have faced many adversities. It hasn’t always been easy, but the effort has been worth it. We have raised two wonderful daughters, both of whom have families and careers.

PATRICIA IN INDIANA

DEAR ABBY: I liked that you highlighted the importance of considering the onset of “Jumbled’s” feelings about her marriage — the all-important “Why now?” question. Perhaps the young mother, with her 3- and 5-year-old children, is chronically fatigued or even depressed because of the incessant demands of caring for them. Even mild depression can skew one’s outlook on everything, including one’s marriage.

— DENISE IN SAN DIEGO

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